How to stay Together in a RELATIONSHIP!!!

1. Physical appearance
physical appearance and attraction is important to draw two people together at first, If working out and staying fit is important to you, It will it bum you out if your mate doesn’t share your quest for rock-hard abs? Perhaps you shouldnt hold so much weight on how your mate looks but put more emphasis on how they stay healthy to enjoy a longer life together. This may motivate them to working out more when you put it that way.

2. Emotional maturity
You have to ask your self is the person you're with emotionally mature or still lugging around some trunk-sized baggage? How does your lover relate to family and friends? Is he or she emotionally supportive or have control issues? Is your mate aware of his or her own issues and interested in addressing them? People have to learn to analyze them self & try to correct their own faults to make relationships work. To me Compromise Understanding & being reasonable is always a good combination of things to have. Dont look for victory in arguments. Look for ways to resolve the issue.

3. Lifestyle choices
This includes career and social lives, common interests, leisure time activities and energy levels. Pretty much you should dig what each other are interested in. Perhaps you dont like Opera but once in a blue make her feel special by doing it. Vice Versa If she likes Football then that's good. But there has to be something she doesn't like that you do that she'd be willing to compromise on. This makes you both feel special. Also you should have common interest to do together were you're both satisfied.

4. Financial compatibility
This is really important. It includes income levels, savings goals and views on handling money. How do you each want to spend, save and invest? Is one person a spender while the other saves? Is one person financially responsible while the other plays catch-up with child support and bills? I think If you're happy looking rich but being poor together then more power to you lol. Personally I want a partner who compromised looking good with being financially great. We can buy some luxury as long as the bulk of our money is making money in investments & business.

5. Value structure
This area is often overlooked but has a tremendous impact on your life. It includes the big values: honesty, integrity, loyalty, views on family and children, religion and spirituality, life goals and the treatment and care for others. Does your mate follow through on promises made? Would you say this person is trustworthy? Will you always be there for each other in a pinch? Yes it works baby.

6. Marriage and intimacy
Everyone does not share the same idea of marriage. The big questions to address are: What do you and your mate expect from marriage? Is he or she looking for a soul mate? Do you both want close intimacy beyond the physical aspect, including with your friendships and in private communications with each other?

7. Intelligence
Having similar education levels increases your chances of sharing social experiences, intellectual interests and career goals. What topics do you and your honey like to talk about? Conversation limited to sports or shopping may get boring to someone who likes to ponder philosophy and bluster about business. I dont think you have to both have gone to college. How ever the relationship works when You have the same level or close to intellect. That way conversations are enriched & doesn't leave 1 person going damn I feel dumb or start tuning you out b/c they're unable to add anything.

While you don’t have to match exactly in each area, look at the big picture and make sure you match closely enough in the important areas of your life to up your chances of finding a love that will go the distance.