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- Martel Prophet
- If you dont like to think & you spend your whole life not trying to understand anything. Then get off my Blog.
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Saturday, April 7, 2012
CELL PHONE COMPANY BUSINESS PRACTICES ARE STUPID
Ok, We all have cell phones these days. The thing about having a cell phone is its a luxury. Nobody is entitled to having one. If you didnt have one you wouldnt die. With that said, Cell phones have still become a major part of our lives. With technology constantly evolving, its expected that people will want to update their phones. This is where I become livid with cell phone service providers. 1st I have to single out SPRINT. If Ive been a sprint customer for say 8 years. Why is it when I go to update my phone I see that my price as a long term customer is $149.99 Yet for a new customer it would be $49.99? What sense does that make? To add insult to injury then I have to pay an activation fee of $36 for a service I basically already had just b/c I have a new phone? Its nonsensical & stupid.
Its a slap in the face. It pretty much says we dont give a damn that you've been a loyal customer who has paid their bill on time & provided us with money. Ultimately my money as a customer is what allows your company to exist at all. Yet you slap me in the face & say what ever we dont care about your loyalty. Instead you give more perks & love to a new untested customer. I say untested because you dont know the loyalty of this new customer. You dont know if this customer pays their cell phone bills consistently on time. All you can really check is their credit history. Trust me I know people who pay their bills late every month & yet get treated like royalty when they switch service providers. WHY? because these company's are so stupidly focused on taking customers from their competition that they lose sight of the most important thing. KEEP THE COSTUMERS YOU HAVE ALREADY HAPPY!!!
If you agree with this share it & call your cell phone service provider & complain till they give you the respect you deserve as a long term customer.
Its a slap in the face. It pretty much says we dont give a damn that you've been a loyal customer who has paid their bill on time & provided us with money. Ultimately my money as a customer is what allows your company to exist at all. Yet you slap me in the face & say what ever we dont care about your loyalty. Instead you give more perks & love to a new untested customer. I say untested because you dont know the loyalty of this new customer. You dont know if this customer pays their cell phone bills consistently on time. All you can really check is their credit history. Trust me I know people who pay their bills late every month & yet get treated like royalty when they switch service providers. WHY? because these company's are so stupidly focused on taking customers from their competition that they lose sight of the most important thing. KEEP THE COSTUMERS YOU HAVE ALREADY HAPPY!!!
If you agree with this share it & call your cell phone service provider & complain till they give you the respect you deserve as a long term customer.
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Just chillen thinking
I was just sitting here chillen. I thought maybe I should write something. I've been neglecting this blog for a minute. I bet like 90% of the people who did read this probably stopped. I dont blame them. Hopefully I can get on my Job & continue to put content up like I did before. Honestly no excuses. But I was recording my 1st Mixtape. Is there a God. Then I got caught up in the biz of Six Pound Records. Then I got caught up recording the 2nd Mixtape Is there a God 2 The 2nd coming. Which is pretty much done. Im just putting the finishing touches on that.
Any way IM BACK !!! Lol So all my readers come back lol
Any way IM BACK !!! Lol So all my readers come back lol
Friday, October 14, 2011
How women can get a man
Go Out Looking for a Good Time—Not Your Future Husband
Super-attractor Rule No. 1: Don’t go hunting. “Too many girls focus on meeting The One when they should be looking for a tasty drink and a fun night out,” says Amber Kallor, a 26-year-old in New York City who’s known for getting guys of all stripes—hipsters, bankers, sailors, you name it—hopelessly hooked. “When you’re out seeking your ‘penguin’—you know, because penguins mate for life—men sense that, and no guy wants or needs that kind of pressure.” Adam LoDolce, a Boston-based dating coach and author of Being Alone Sucks!: How to Build Self-Esteem, Confidence and Social Freedom to Transform Your Dating and Social Life (cheesy title, solid advice), agrees. “There’s nothing more appealing than the girl who carries herself like she’s having a good time,” he says. “Who wouldn’t want to be around her?” So buy your own martini, and enjoy yourself. That’s penguin bait.
Never Bash Other Women
Another insight man magnets share: Being catty will get you nowhere with guys. Men want to know that you’re confident. “Think about it: If you two start dating, he has a mom, sisters and female friends he’ll want you to spend time with,” says Marie Salazar, 29, a marketer from San Francisco whose male buddies are all in love with her (or so say her annoyed girl-friends). “Showing a guy that it won’t be a nightmare to bring you to a family dinner is a good first step.” Philadelphian Meredith Klein, 23, sums it up this way: “Someone else’s strengths don’t make you look bad—but being jealous and insecure does.”
Be Easy
We’re not talking Jersey Shore easy; we’re talking easygoing. Guys are drawn to girls they can picture having fun with in either a dive bar or a schmancy restaurant. “Men appreciate that I can hang with their friends, kill it at a work event and chill at home,” says New Yorker LaNora Williams-Clark, 32, who has been single for a total of three months since she started dating more than 15 years ago. “It boils down to charm and an ability to roll with the punches.”
Related: The Top 10 Ways to Wake Up Prettier
Don’t Dress for Girls
The super-trendy stuff you’d wear to impress your friends often leaves men cold. Guys Glamour spoke to gave the thumbs-down to maxidresses (“They cover too much skin,” says Rob, 38), rompers (“How do you even pee?” asks Thomas, 36) and harem pants (“MC Hammer is calling,” quips Kyle, 30). But you don’t have to squeeze into a Kardashidress to get his attention, either. What’s universally sexy, according to men? A woman in a white tee, cute-butt jeans and a pair of heels. Done and done.
Be (Genuinely) Busy
This trick’s not about playing hard to get; it’s about having so much great stuff going on in your world that he wants to be a part of it. “Women who are genuinely busy feel more fulfilled, are happier and are more confident—three powerful magnets for attracting men,” says Angelica Perez-Litwin, Ph.D., a Nyack, New York, psychologist and relationship counselor. Says Mickelle Jackson, 30, a school administrator from Trenton, New Jersey, who’s had more than a few male friends confess romantic feelings: “If a man has to choose between a clingy beauty and an unavailable average girl, he will choose average every time.”
Two Words: No Bitching
When your crazy boss is blowing up your iPhone after hours and your sister is insisting you wear pistachio-and-melon-striped chiffon to her wedding, it can be easy to slip into a monologue about why life sucks. Don’t! “It makes you look like a drama queen, and if there’s one thing all guys hate, it’s drama,” says Christina Nguyen, a 31-year-old from Minneapolis who’s been told her fun-loving attitude makes her memorable. LoDolce agrees: “It’s impossible to flirt if you’re complaining.”
See also: Fall 2011’s Most Wearable Trends
Let Him See Your Ambitious Side
It’s a corollary of “be busy”: Guys like women who have passions in life, so show yours! “When my husband and I were dating, he would always tell me how much my ambition inspired him to be better,” says Jessica Guberman, 34, a vice president of marketing and development for a national nonprofit in Princeton, New -Jersey. For Alexa Carlin, 20, of Wellington, Florida, fulfilling her dream of running her own fashion company caused a noticeable spike in male attention: “Girls who are motivated to accomplish their dreams show drive and determination—guys love those qualities.” Sharing your goals up front also affects the type of guy you attract. “High-quality men are drawn to ambitious women,” LoDolce believes. “I hate when women worry about intimidating men. If a guy is intimidated by you, he doesn’t deserve you.” Amen to that.
Be the Person You Want to Date
Sounds simple, but you can’t seek a man who is secure, self-assured and emotionally evolved if you’re not all of those things yourself. It’s basic relationship karma! “If you wouldn’t want to date yourself, then how can you expect someone else to want to date you?” says Lina Shivangi, a 31-year-old marketing director from Austin, Texas. Nadarah Butler, 31, a doctor living in Los Angeles who has never gone more than a year without a serious boyfriend, agrees: “If you haven’t figured out who you are yet, you can’t possibly know what you want in a guy.”
Super-attractor Rule No. 1: Don’t go hunting. “Too many girls focus on meeting The One when they should be looking for a tasty drink and a fun night out,” says Amber Kallor, a 26-year-old in New York City who’s known for getting guys of all stripes—hipsters, bankers, sailors, you name it—hopelessly hooked. “When you’re out seeking your ‘penguin’—you know, because penguins mate for life—men sense that, and no guy wants or needs that kind of pressure.” Adam LoDolce, a Boston-based dating coach and author of Being Alone Sucks!: How to Build Self-Esteem, Confidence and Social Freedom to Transform Your Dating and Social Life (cheesy title, solid advice), agrees. “There’s nothing more appealing than the girl who carries herself like she’s having a good time,” he says. “Who wouldn’t want to be around her?” So buy your own martini, and enjoy yourself. That’s penguin bait.
Never Bash Other Women
Another insight man magnets share: Being catty will get you nowhere with guys. Men want to know that you’re confident. “Think about it: If you two start dating, he has a mom, sisters and female friends he’ll want you to spend time with,” says Marie Salazar, 29, a marketer from San Francisco whose male buddies are all in love with her (or so say her annoyed girl-friends). “Showing a guy that it won’t be a nightmare to bring you to a family dinner is a good first step.” Philadelphian Meredith Klein, 23, sums it up this way: “Someone else’s strengths don’t make you look bad—but being jealous and insecure does.”
Be Easy
We’re not talking Jersey Shore easy; we’re talking easygoing. Guys are drawn to girls they can picture having fun with in either a dive bar or a schmancy restaurant. “Men appreciate that I can hang with their friends, kill it at a work event and chill at home,” says New Yorker LaNora Williams-Clark, 32, who has been single for a total of three months since she started dating more than 15 years ago. “It boils down to charm and an ability to roll with the punches.”
Related: The Top 10 Ways to Wake Up Prettier
Don’t Dress for Girls
The super-trendy stuff you’d wear to impress your friends often leaves men cold. Guys Glamour spoke to gave the thumbs-down to maxidresses (“They cover too much skin,” says Rob, 38), rompers (“How do you even pee?” asks Thomas, 36) and harem pants (“MC Hammer is calling,” quips Kyle, 30). But you don’t have to squeeze into a Kardashidress to get his attention, either. What’s universally sexy, according to men? A woman in a white tee, cute-butt jeans and a pair of heels. Done and done.
Be (Genuinely) Busy
This trick’s not about playing hard to get; it’s about having so much great stuff going on in your world that he wants to be a part of it. “Women who are genuinely busy feel more fulfilled, are happier and are more confident—three powerful magnets for attracting men,” says Angelica Perez-Litwin, Ph.D., a Nyack, New York, psychologist and relationship counselor. Says Mickelle Jackson, 30, a school administrator from Trenton, New Jersey, who’s had more than a few male friends confess romantic feelings: “If a man has to choose between a clingy beauty and an unavailable average girl, he will choose average every time.”
Two Words: No Bitching
When your crazy boss is blowing up your iPhone after hours and your sister is insisting you wear pistachio-and-melon-striped chiffon to her wedding, it can be easy to slip into a monologue about why life sucks. Don’t! “It makes you look like a drama queen, and if there’s one thing all guys hate, it’s drama,” says Christina Nguyen, a 31-year-old from Minneapolis who’s been told her fun-loving attitude makes her memorable. LoDolce agrees: “It’s impossible to flirt if you’re complaining.”
See also: Fall 2011’s Most Wearable Trends
Let Him See Your Ambitious Side
It’s a corollary of “be busy”: Guys like women who have passions in life, so show yours! “When my husband and I were dating, he would always tell me how much my ambition inspired him to be better,” says Jessica Guberman, 34, a vice president of marketing and development for a national nonprofit in Princeton, New -Jersey. For Alexa Carlin, 20, of Wellington, Florida, fulfilling her dream of running her own fashion company caused a noticeable spike in male attention: “Girls who are motivated to accomplish their dreams show drive and determination—guys love those qualities.” Sharing your goals up front also affects the type of guy you attract. “High-quality men are drawn to ambitious women,” LoDolce believes. “I hate when women worry about intimidating men. If a guy is intimidated by you, he doesn’t deserve you.” Amen to that.
Be the Person You Want to Date
Sounds simple, but you can’t seek a man who is secure, self-assured and emotionally evolved if you’re not all of those things yourself. It’s basic relationship karma! “If you wouldn’t want to date yourself, then how can you expect someone else to want to date you?” says Lina Shivangi, a 31-year-old marketing director from Austin, Texas. Nadarah Butler, 31, a doctor living in Los Angeles who has never gone more than a year without a serious boyfriend, agrees: “If you haven’t figured out who you are yet, you can’t possibly know what you want in a guy.”
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
How to fix the black community
1) Create no nonsense Skills & trade programs for unemployed & under skilled individuals.
Offer these programs to Non violent drug offenders ( drug dealers ) instead of incarcerating them. This way they can have a career & skill to be gainfully employed.
2) END the stop snitching campaign. Yes I'm from the hood & I know people will take some time to change their mentality. However I think We have to change b/c the Definition of insanity is repeating the same action & expecting different results. Obviously the stop snitching & allowing criminals to get away with crimes have not improved our communities. Therefore we have to switch tactics & instead of protecting individual criminals we should be protecting & revitalizing our neighborhoods. Another idea which has been frowned down on in the black community is cooperating with law enforcement. However under the premise that non violent offenders will be instead of incarcerated introduced to programs to improve quality of life.
3)Reach out to large corporations & wealthy Black Americans. These people have the resources to create & build businesses & create robust economic growth within the black community. Hiring & continuing the training of black employees. Create black banks where black entrepreneurs can receive loans to further increase black financial independence & prosperity. Gentrify our neighborhoods our self. Bring in profitable companies. With out radically raising the property value of the neighborhood. The point of this is to allow people within that neighborhood & reap the benefits of the economic prosperity. Slowly raising the property value so that they can maintain & their income can also grow to reflect the change. This will Allow residents to fully benefit from the Gentrification with out forcing them out like it has traditionally.
4)We have to end the dependence on the government. Of course we have to work with politicians & govt programs to go through the transition. However we have to drastically change social programs. We shouldn't be reliant of these programs long term. We should invest more in training & giving black people skills to become employed & entrepreneurs. Our goal should be to become self reliant business owners & skillfully employed citizens who can stand on our own feet.
Offer these programs to Non violent drug offenders ( drug dealers ) instead of incarcerating them. This way they can have a career & skill to be gainfully employed.
2) END the stop snitching campaign. Yes I'm from the hood & I know people will take some time to change their mentality. However I think We have to change b/c the Definition of insanity is repeating the same action & expecting different results. Obviously the stop snitching & allowing criminals to get away with crimes have not improved our communities. Therefore we have to switch tactics & instead of protecting individual criminals we should be protecting & revitalizing our neighborhoods. Another idea which has been frowned down on in the black community is cooperating with law enforcement. However under the premise that non violent offenders will be instead of incarcerated introduced to programs to improve quality of life.
3)Reach out to large corporations & wealthy Black Americans. These people have the resources to create & build businesses & create robust economic growth within the black community. Hiring & continuing the training of black employees. Create black banks where black entrepreneurs can receive loans to further increase black financial independence & prosperity. Gentrify our neighborhoods our self. Bring in profitable companies. With out radically raising the property value of the neighborhood. The point of this is to allow people within that neighborhood & reap the benefits of the economic prosperity. Slowly raising the property value so that they can maintain & their income can also grow to reflect the change. This will Allow residents to fully benefit from the Gentrification with out forcing them out like it has traditionally.
4)We have to end the dependence on the government. Of course we have to work with politicians & govt programs to go through the transition. However we have to drastically change social programs. We shouldn't be reliant of these programs long term. We should invest more in training & giving black people skills to become employed & entrepreneurs. Our goal should be to become self reliant business owners & skillfully employed citizens who can stand on our own feet.
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Friday, September 23, 2011
5 Bad Habits that could mess up your Marriage or Relationship
One of the main themes of my happiness project is marriage. For me, as with many people, my marriage is one of the most central elements in my life, my home, and my happiness.
When I started my happiness project, and I reflected about the changes I wanted to make, I realized I had five particular problem areas in my marriage. Here they are, along with the strategies I try to use to address them, though they remain challenging:
1. Demanding gold stars. Oh, how I crave appreciation and recognition! I always want that gold star stuck to my homework. But my husband just isn’t very good at handing out gold stars, and that makes me feel angry and unappreciated.
In response, I now think more about doing things for myself. I used to tell myself I was doing nice things for him – “He’ll be so happy to see that I put all the books away,” “He’ll be so pleased that I finally got the trunk packed for camp” etc. – then I’d be mad when he wasn’t appreciative. Now I tell myself that I’m doing these things because I want to do them. “Wow, the kitchen cabinets look great!” “I’m so organized to have bought all the supplies in advance!” Because I do things for myself, I don't expect him to respond in any particular way.
2. Using a snappish tone. I have a very short fuse and become irritable extremely easily – but my husband really doesn’t like it when I snap at him (big surprise). I’ve done a lot to try to keep my temper in check. I don’t let myself get too hungry or too cold (I fall into these states very easily); I try to keep our apartment in reasonable order, because a mess makes me crabby; when he tries to make a joke out of my temper, I try to laugh along; I try to control my voice to keep it light and cheery instead of accusatory and impatient. Confession: I've worked on this issue relentlessly for years, and still have a really tough time with it. For instance, I spoke in a snappish tone just last night.
3. Not showing enough consideration. . Studies show that married people treat each other with less civility than they show to other people -- and I do this with my husband, I know. I'm working hard on basic consideration, such as giving him warm greetings and farewells, not reading my emails while talking to him on the phone, etc. Very basic, I know.
4. Score-keeping. I’m a score-keeper, always calculating who has done what. “I cleaned up the kitchen, so you have to run to the store” -- that sort of thing. I’ve found two ways to try to deal with this tendency.
First, I remind myself of the phenomenon of unconscious over-claiming; i.e., we unconsciously overestimate our contributions or skills relative to other people’s. This makes sense, because of course we’re far more aware of what we do than what other people do. According to Jonathan Haidt’s The Happiness Hypothesis, “when husbands and wives estimate the percentage of housework each does, their estimates total more than 120 percent.” I complain about the time I spend paying bills, but I overlook the time my husband spends dealing with our our car. It’s easy to see that over-claiming leads to resentment and an inflated sense of entitlement. So now when I find myself thinking, “I’m the only one around here who bothers to…” or “Why do I always have to be the one who…?” I remind myself of all the tasks I don’t do.
Second, I remind myself of the words of my spiritual master, St. Therese of Lisieux: “When one loves, one does not calculate.” That precept is the basis for my 11th Personal Commandment: No calculation.
5. Taking my husband for granted. Just as I find it easily to overlook the chores done by my husband (see #4), it’s easy for me to forget to appreciate his many virtues and instead focus on his flaws. For example, although I find it hard to resist using an irritable tone, my husband almost never speaks harshly, and that's really a wonderful trait. I’m trying to stay alert to all the things I love about him, and let go of my petty annoyances. This is easier said than done.
I’ve found that working to keep my resolution to Kiss more, hug more, touch more is an effective way to help me stay in loving, appreciative frame of mind, with my husband and my daughters, too. KMHMTM is one of my very favorite resolutions! It doesn't take any extra time, energy, or money, and it makes a real difference in the atmosphere of my home.
What are some mistakes you make in your marriage or long-term relationship? Have you found any useful strategies for addressing them?
* I love the internet! For some reason, I was thinking about the fabulous opening scene from the first Austin Powers movie, and then I thought -- I bet I can watch it on YouTube! And there it is. Silly, hilarious. If I had to pick a personal theme song, that music would definitely be a candidate.
article by Gretchen Rubin,
When I started my happiness project, and I reflected about the changes I wanted to make, I realized I had five particular problem areas in my marriage. Here they are, along with the strategies I try to use to address them, though they remain challenging:
1. Demanding gold stars. Oh, how I crave appreciation and recognition! I always want that gold star stuck to my homework. But my husband just isn’t very good at handing out gold stars, and that makes me feel angry and unappreciated.
In response, I now think more about doing things for myself. I used to tell myself I was doing nice things for him – “He’ll be so happy to see that I put all the books away,” “He’ll be so pleased that I finally got the trunk packed for camp” etc. – then I’d be mad when he wasn’t appreciative. Now I tell myself that I’m doing these things because I want to do them. “Wow, the kitchen cabinets look great!” “I’m so organized to have bought all the supplies in advance!” Because I do things for myself, I don't expect him to respond in any particular way.
2. Using a snappish tone. I have a very short fuse and become irritable extremely easily – but my husband really doesn’t like it when I snap at him (big surprise). I’ve done a lot to try to keep my temper in check. I don’t let myself get too hungry or too cold (I fall into these states very easily); I try to keep our apartment in reasonable order, because a mess makes me crabby; when he tries to make a joke out of my temper, I try to laugh along; I try to control my voice to keep it light and cheery instead of accusatory and impatient. Confession: I've worked on this issue relentlessly for years, and still have a really tough time with it. For instance, I spoke in a snappish tone just last night.
3. Not showing enough consideration. . Studies show that married people treat each other with less civility than they show to other people -- and I do this with my husband, I know. I'm working hard on basic consideration, such as giving him warm greetings and farewells, not reading my emails while talking to him on the phone, etc. Very basic, I know.
4. Score-keeping. I’m a score-keeper, always calculating who has done what. “I cleaned up the kitchen, so you have to run to the store” -- that sort of thing. I’ve found two ways to try to deal with this tendency.
First, I remind myself of the phenomenon of unconscious over-claiming; i.e., we unconsciously overestimate our contributions or skills relative to other people’s. This makes sense, because of course we’re far more aware of what we do than what other people do. According to Jonathan Haidt’s The Happiness Hypothesis, “when husbands and wives estimate the percentage of housework each does, their estimates total more than 120 percent.” I complain about the time I spend paying bills, but I overlook the time my husband spends dealing with our our car. It’s easy to see that over-claiming leads to resentment and an inflated sense of entitlement. So now when I find myself thinking, “I’m the only one around here who bothers to…” or “Why do I always have to be the one who…?” I remind myself of all the tasks I don’t do.
Second, I remind myself of the words of my spiritual master, St. Therese of Lisieux: “When one loves, one does not calculate.” That precept is the basis for my 11th Personal Commandment: No calculation.
5. Taking my husband for granted. Just as I find it easily to overlook the chores done by my husband (see #4), it’s easy for me to forget to appreciate his many virtues and instead focus on his flaws. For example, although I find it hard to resist using an irritable tone, my husband almost never speaks harshly, and that's really a wonderful trait. I’m trying to stay alert to all the things I love about him, and let go of my petty annoyances. This is easier said than done.
I’ve found that working to keep my resolution to Kiss more, hug more, touch more is an effective way to help me stay in loving, appreciative frame of mind, with my husband and my daughters, too. KMHMTM is one of my very favorite resolutions! It doesn't take any extra time, energy, or money, and it makes a real difference in the atmosphere of my home.
What are some mistakes you make in your marriage or long-term relationship? Have you found any useful strategies for addressing them?
* I love the internet! For some reason, I was thinking about the fabulous opening scene from the first Austin Powers movie, and then I thought -- I bet I can watch it on YouTube! And there it is. Silly, hilarious. If I had to pick a personal theme song, that music would definitely be a candidate.
article by Gretchen Rubin,
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